I signed up in curiosity, but also to get some insight and knowledge about what is holding me back going 100% raw. What are the wrong thinking patterns, what keeps me going back to cooked food. Why some people can go overnight and stay raw, but some fail numerous times?
My biggest problem is: every time i have gone raw i feel great first few weeks or a month, the longest, but as soon as things get hard (for example i start craving cooked food and i have possibility to cheat), i just give up. If something suddenly changes, like i dont have enough fruit in the house or i get stressed, I start making excuses why i cant do it 100%.
My consultant name was Craig Bradshaw. He was very understanding, BUT he told me straight everything i needed to know.
The 3 principles for making the change, are:
1. Intellectual - I have to know what i want. What it is exactly. What is my final goal, where i want to be.
2. Emotional - have strong emotional attachment with my goal. It has to go from my head to my heart.
3. Identity - what qualities i have to have, in order to succeed.
In my case:
1. I already know what I want - to be 100% raw for the rest of my life :)
2. I have to make a very strong reasons of why i need to stay raw and not give up when things get hard. In that case I have to make a "Pain and Pleasure" list. You list all the things you will have and the benefits you will gain if you stay raw - this is the Pleasure list. And then you list all the things you will loose or how negatively it will impact you if you go off raw - this is your Pain list.
3. In order to go past these inconvenient moments, when being raw gets hard, I need to:
1) be committed. Not make any excuses.
2) to focus on what i want, not what i fear. To focus on the BENEFITS and what i will GAIN, if i stay raw, not focus on what i will loose when i stay raw.
3) be strong. Stay put in my beliefs.
These three are the qualities i came up with when he asked me what do i think which qualities i need to have to be that person, who i wanna be.
7 Steps to achieving your goals
1. Have clear and specific goals
2. Have written massive action plan containing exactly what needs to happen to reach your goals
3. Get leverage: why is this goal a MUST and what specifically are the consequences if you dont reach your goal.
4. Create the identity of the person you need to become in order to get what you want. Confident, consistent, focused, etc.
5. Take ACTION that is consistent with your identity.
6. Create the environment that supports you. Surround yourself with people, the places and the things that support you.
1. What do i have to believe in order to stay 100% raw?
2. What is the cost if i dont? How will that make you feel? Who will it hurt?
3. Why is this a MUST? How will that make you feel? Who will it help?
4. Who do i have to become in order to stay 100% raw?
5. Is this action getting me closer to where i want to be or further away?
He said that i have to start building my "emotional muscle". So next time i wanna quit, i have a strong enough emotional muscle to not do it. How can i build it? Simply by repetitive actions. If i repeat staying raw, when i actually wanna quit, it will help me to get stronger and stronger. And when i dont follow my urge to eat cooked food, the craving will get weaker and weaker.
He said that it takes about 30 days to build a habit, but only 1 day to break it. So build a strong habit by repeating.
But when is the best time to build my "emotional muscle"? Not when everything is easy enough to do so or when i have good conditions or enough fruit available. But its easiest when i have greatest resistant. Like when you gonna build more muscle - if you swim along the waves or against the waves? Swimming against the waves builds more and stronger muscle. So dont wait "until the time is right".
So make a plan. My plan is:
1. For 3 months - eat raw for breakfast and lunch, and low fat cooked for dinner (january - march)
2. After that eat another three months cooked dinner every other day (april - june)
3. Then eat cooked dinner 2 times a week (july - september)
4. Then to eat cooked food once a week (october - december)
5. After that go 100% raw.
So its a long plan, but i am gradually making the changes.
Also, do not criticize yourself if you go wrong. Just get up right away and keep trying - do not give up, ever!
I know, i am not the right person to tell you how to be 100% raw, because im not there yet myself :) But i just thought you would benefit from my consultation with a life coach - i know he had some strong strategies.